Vulnerability is Power.
This is something that came to me recently and it felt, powerful. So allow me to explain.
Our cultural narrative, especially for men, dictates that to be vulnerable means you are weak.
But I disagree. To be complacent and not share how you really feel, that is weak.
Vulnerability means we step into self-honesty, and mindfulness can help us get there.
When we feel crappy, we can slow down, look within and notice.
What emotions are present right now? (anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, joy, guilt?)
How am I feeling in my body? (tired, upset stomach, stress in shoulders?)
Once we notice, and are honest with ourselves, we can choose to share how we are doing with others (vulnerability).
With social media, it seems like everyone has a perfect life – rarely do people share their worst failures or most embarrassing mistakes.
But why not?
We are afraid of being judged, criticized, or rejected.
And that might happen.
However, if you are judged, criticized, or rejected, it just shows how Powerful being vulnerable can be.
So powerful, people are running away from you 😉
On the flip side, those that can relate will feel more drawn to you.
Vulnerability is like a magnet. It repels those that are not good for you, and attracts those that do match.
Now that is Power.
And that can be scary.
So how do you want to live your life? – vulnerable and powerful, or keep how you really feel to yourself?
Try it out with someone you trust. See if being open and vulnerable creates a more powerful relationship.
I’m on the journey with you, opening and sharing my vulnerability as well.
Sometimes it’s scary just to write a newsletter or make a video.
“What will others think of me?”
“Will anyone want to work with me?”
My fears and insecurities are still passengers on my bus.
And with mindfulness, self-compassion, and courage, I am learning to step into my own power and be vulnerable too.
I hope you can join me on the journey.
Until next time,
P.S. If you, or someone you know, is struggling with anxiety and stress and could use the support of a professional, it would be an honor to be of service. I offer:
- Individual Therapy for Anxiety and Relationship Struggles
- Mindfulness Groups/Workshops for Dating, Anxiety and Stress Reduction, and mindfulness in the Workplace